Shifting From Control to Acceptance

During some really difficult times in my life, I found myself asking “What can I do to get out of this?”

The emotions, physical pain, mental anguish were intense and unbearable at times and it was hard to get through the day. It was hard to be in my body. It was hard to do anything at all.

I did all the things- movement if I could, breathwork, screaming into a pillow, journaling, baths- all extremely effective tools that shifted my energy and provided some relief- but didn’t “fix” anything.

I was impatient and wanted it to go away as soon as possible. And don’t we all?

At a certain point, it hit me that I was asking myself the wrong question. Instead of “How do I get out of this ASAP?” I started asking myself “What is the best way to support myself right now while I’m experiencing this?”

And that’s when everything shifted.

Even though I was doing all of the things, I couldn’t accept that this is a process. That I can’t make it all go away overnight. That doing more isn’t the answer.

I needed to let go of control. Surrender the fact that all I could do is support myself in this moment.

Using all of my tools as a way to support myself rather than trying to make it all go away was a game changer.

Healing is a process- it takes time and that’s not always easy to hear when you are going through some really tough stuff.

But things get so much easier when we can accept it.

What are you doing to support yourself today? Let me know in the comments below: